Yes, I can.

I’ve always told myself to expect the worst possible outcome. Any time I would deliver a speech, submit an application or turn in a test, I always immediately told myself that I failed. Why did I do this, you might ask? Because I was scared of the disappointment that came with failure. If I set my expectations on the floor, there was no way for me to be disappointed. It didn’t matter if I knew the test material inside and out, or I gave the best speech of my life, I automatically failed in my head.

This made my wins seem a lot sweeter in my head. I had already decided that I couldn’t, so I had proved myself wrong on that front. I mean, sure, my losses didn’t sting as much…right? But it left me with a question sitting in the back of my head: “What if I had believed that I could?” If I had confidence in myself and went in with a positive mindset instead of constantly putting myself down, what more could I have accomplished?

Failure is a necessary part of life that helps us grow and learn. When we learn to embrace failure, we unlock all of the valuable knowledge that comes with it. Once we gain that knowledge, we can no longer count it a failure, because we’ve gained the experience and are better because of it. But let’s not forget, embracing failure does not equal expecting failure. Don’t tell yourself, “No, I can’t,” but “Yes, I can, and I will!”